Blog #2 by Monica K. Garber: “Today I Wear Purple”

10 Nov

Monica K. Garber
Introduction to Women’s Studies
Professor Petrino
Blog Post #2

I really enjoyed reading this blog post by a woman named Cortney who is a feminist that recently came out of the closet. She is very proud to say that today she is wearing purple and standing proud with her queer brothers and sisters. I think that her post is very empowering and motivational. I love how she questions the term “coming out.” The reality is that gay people are never really in. It is all just an idea in our minds; the terms gay and straight, in and out. People cannot control what sex they are attracted to. I think it is part of human nature. People out there will always be judgmental about how others choose to live their lives, but the reality is that nobody’s opinion should count except for our very own. We wake up every morning being ourselves and go to sleep every night being ourselves and all that should matter is that we are happy with who we are. I love her idea that “our cultural understanding of queerness and of homosexuality is based on the notion that they are inherently dishonest unless they are announced fully and openly.” Many people have trouble revealing that they are gay to their friends and family because they are afraid of how others will react. It’s not being dishonest at all. It’s a matter of first becoming comfortable in your own skin.

In one of our previous readings “Homophobia: A Weapon of Sexism” by Suzanne Pharr, she says that “in my life I have experienced the effects of homophobia through rejection by friends, threats of loss of employment, and threats upon my life; and I have witnessed far worse things happening to other lesbian and gay people: loss of children, beatings, rape, death.” This comes to show how people are afraid to openly come out about their sexuality because of the fear of being rejected. People start to look at you differently and act differently towards you when they know that you are a homosexual. This needs to change because it is 2010 and almost half of men and women in New York City alone are gay. In fact, some of the most brilliant and influential minds of our time are gay. People need to stop being so harsh and judgmental towards others because of their sexuality. People like Cortney need to voice their message a lot louder and always stand up and wear the color purple.


2 Responses to “Blog #2 by Monica K. Garber: “Today I Wear Purple””

  1. ysamar November 10, 2010 at 7:45 pm #

    I couldn’t agree more.
    So many people can’t be themselves because of society’s “do’s and dont’s”.
    Nobody should be judged or hurt because of who they are. Where is the justice in that? Americans need to be more open-minded and stop trying to put pressures on people who aren’t their view of “normal”.

  2. monicagarber1989 November 11, 2010 at 7:29 pm #

    I completely agree. It’s so sad that people are afraid to reveal their sexuality because they are worried about how they will be perceived and what will happen to them. People worry about how it will affect their career and their personal life. Homosexuals are so worried about what others will think of them, meanwhile the only thing that should really matter is how they feel about themselves because at the end of the day, it’s their mind and body that they have to live with.

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