Blog Post 2: Are Chivalry and Feminism Incompatible

11 Nov


This blog article questions the intentions of men that act in a chivalrous manner. For example, men that hold the door open of women or assist them with their bags. A woman that travelled outside the United States experiences the chivalry of the men in the country and was shocked by it. Her first reaction was that there was a language barrier and that they could not possible be polite to her on purpose. She was so use to the pushing and rude and cut-throat behavior in the United States that it was at first unreal to her that chivalry still exists somewhere. She then thought back and remembered that chivalry was a thing from the past when he where polite to women because the belief was that women was inferior and was more soft and fragile so they needed to be treated with care and needed help from men. This is where this code of honor was developed. The woman from the article then went on to assume that the women of the country with the chivalrous men probably are inferior to the men and live a backwards life where there was no feminist movement by the people or feminist effect to the people. She was very wrong about this! The women of the other countries were far from backwards. They held high positions in government such as prime minister and high courts. The United States are now just starting to let women into powerful positions. The men of the other countries may be chivalrous toward women but it sure doesn’t have a negative effect on the women. The woman from the article had grown to like the polite gentlemen of the other country and now has found a new perspective on chivalrous men. They are not trying to restrict the women of their country with their politeness; they are just trying to be genuinely nice to a person. The woman from the article speaks on how the women are treated be the men, but I wonder how men treat men in those countries. Are they as polite to the men as there are to the women? And if so maybe the men are not acting in a chivalrous manner. Maybe the men in that country are just polite and kind to everyone. The chivalry displayed by these foreign men is a good lesson or example for both the men and the women of the United States in that it pays to be polite and it is noticed by others.



5 Responses to “Blog Post 2: Are Chivalry and Feminism Incompatible”

  1. ysamar November 11, 2010 at 5:58 pm #

    This can be seen both ways.
    Men can be doing it because they are seeing women as fragile but then again what if they just want to be polite? I mean I can open my own door, but I also hold the door for a woman with a baby carriage. Does that mean they’re fragile? No, they just need a hand and its the polite thing to do.
    It can be seen in different perspectives.

    • darian12 November 11, 2010 at 6:36 pm #

      I agree with the rude and cut-throat behavior of the United States. People in this country especially in major cities are so used to being pushed and shoved around that when a nice gesture is done in their way they have no idea what to do. For the author to assume that people are being nice because they think she is a woman and she is inferior is ridiculous. Maybe that was how our country acted but most other countries are not like our patriarchal society. These countries have always held women in the highest positions like you said. I think that the author was just not used to being treated with politeness. I agree, that the person that held the door for her was most likely being polite and just trying to be nice.

      • jd316 November 14, 2010 at 9:51 pm #

        I think it can also go both ways. I hold a door open just to be polite. I do it for both men and women.

  2. itzjessicax3 November 15, 2010 at 12:37 am #

    I think it depends on the individual. Some are more polite then others or they do it to impress someone. I know I help others to be polite to make their life easier when they are carrying to much things or have a child with them. I agree that since we live in a busy city it is harder to be chivalrous due to the fact that everyone is pushing and shoving to get to where they want to like in Manhattan. But if it was suburbs it wouldn’t be as less busy and people would be willing to help

  3. catch December 14, 2010 at 9:37 pm #

    Yes, chivalry and feminism are incompatible. Feminism is about equality in all area of life, which is why feminists call chivalry “benevolent sexism.”

    But, it’s not a problem. I simply treat feminists like men, with strict equality but non-feminists like ladies. That way, feminists get the equality they want and non-feminists get the courtesy and deference they want.

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