Blog Post #5 ~ Why Do Straight Women Think Being A Lesbian Is Easier?

14 Dec

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By: Chantell Walton

I admit, after reading this article from by Trish Bendix,  I am guilty of having thought this. Probably having gone so far as to have said it in conversation. I think all straight women may have felt this way as a form of frustration with the opposite sex.  Is it true statement? Of course not! As the article points out, “There’s a little something called Inequality.” Of which, there are a laundry list of reasons why a straight person in general has it easier than a lesbian. We have covered such reasons in class discussions and assignments.  The first being freedom to Marry their partners, Publicly acknowledge their partners, Freedom to adopt & Serve in the Military openly, etc…But yet in still, I can’t help but feel a kind of solidarity to these women who feel this way.  (At least with the frustration aspect.)  Such woman including “Androgynous Eurythmics” frontwoman Annie Lennox who has been quoted in saying:
“It’s not like I think being gay could be an alternative, ‘cos it isn’t. I sometimes wish it would have been ‘cos it would have made life easier.” She adds to her statement by calling men “a huge disappointment.” “(But) I’m not a man-hater, let me say that. I love men, love their company.”

Not that becoming lesbian should be thought of as consolation prize in the game of  straight love.  Such a generalization is not only offensive, it’s insulting. Or that Men should be viewed that negatively in general. Obviously, relationships can be complicated, straight or gay.  Not to mention finding a suitable partner who meets all of our needs is  about as easy as locating a unicorn.  So why do so many women feel it would be easier to in turn become a lesbian? Socially it would not be easier by any means, given the history of societies bias against the homosexual community and the reasons mentioned above. I agree with the Author here, (who happens to be one herself)  it’s not a bad thing at all to be a lesbian. Perhaps it is that women feel a kinship to one another in the difficulties with heterosexual relationships & would perhaps not have the same issues with another women. The fact is, No one really knows for sure.  Needless to say, generalized statements such as the title in question aren’t right, unless proven otherwise. And unless of course, society’s views on homosexuality change for the better.

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